Today is the deadline for applications for the free boot camp offer for those who attended T21C Orlando 2010. That’s right, for a measly $150 ticket price, some lucky-but-deserving-guy is going to get a $2000 boot camp — free. To my knowledge, I’m the first and only coach to give out actual training vouchers as prizes at live events. But it’s no longer going to be random. From now on, training voucher prizes are going to be more like scholarships — they will be awarded to the most worthy candidates.

If you think you’ve got what it takes, then I highly suggest you attend next year’s 21 Convention Event, either in Europe or Orlando. You just might get a free boot camp out of it.

10. You know who Eben, Erik, Neil, and Owen are, but you refuse to call them by their real names unless they insist. Sometimes not even then.

9. Every time you hang out with your friends/wings, you crack at least one joke “asking for a female opinion”.

8. Your former porn hiding space is now overrun with pickup books and DVDs.

7. When people mention “Tyler Durden” from Fight Club you’re not thinking of Brad Pitt. It’s actually weird to watch fight club again because all the references have different meanings to you. The project mayhem cult references are twice as funny in an inside-joke sort of way.

6. You wear too much jewelry and own too many shirts with skulls, bones, and swirly prints.

5. You get more PU newsletter emails than emails from real people.

4. When your mom visits and tells you that you should clean up your apartment, you think of how to handle her shit test.

3. SNL no longer refers to Saturday evening television programs.

2. You care more about the natural game vs canned/routines debate than you do about oil spills, health care reform, and conflicts in the middle east… combined.

1. You’re reading this top 10 list shit. At work.

But to my surprise, the reviews, emails, and feedback started pouring in and apparently people liked it. That one little speech seemingly launched my career, giving way to MTV deals, interviews, documentary appearances, and tons of exposure. But even more important than that were the emails that started to flood my inbox. Emails from hundreds of guys around the world who had taken that speech to heart and had used the tools I presented to change their lives. It’s gotten to the point where one of the big highlights for me every day is reading those emails and answering questions. Realizing that you made a difference. Because that’s what it’s all about.

Suffice to say, I’m eternally grateful to Anthony “Dream” Johnson for all of his help, support, and encouragement, and in a few days I’m once again joining him and other world-famous speakers in Orlando to rock the house for this year’s epic 21 Convention.

It’s amazing how much has changed in only a year. Long term students have lost their virginity.

I’m actually really excited for this year’s event because the emphasis has evolved significantly in only 12 months. Starting in 2008 and continuing through to 2009 and this year, the focus of the 21 convention has shifted from “pickup” and “seduction” to “Men’s Success.” In my mind, that change is absolutely critical as it helps to break down many of the potentially damaging and dogmatic beliefs we used to hold in seduction and pickup.

It’s not that pickup or seduction is bad. On the contrary, this community has transformed my life and is responsible for just about everything I have today. But there’s also a dark side to the community, and (pardon the geek references) without the light, the darkness can easily consume you. I remember back in 2005 and 2006 when most of us were still running indirect game. The vast majority of our belief systems revolved around unworthiness, lacking confidence, and existing in a headspace of constantly trying to ‘trick’ people into liking us. That of course sounds ludicrous to me today, but at the time that was considered “normal.”

The 21 Convention is unique in the fact that it is consistently evolving due to Dream’s insane and borderline unhealthy passion obsession with improvement. But that kind of dedication is what makes him who he is and what makes this event so special. Along with many of 2009′s speakers, I will be joined this year alongside such prolific speakers as Mark Sisson, Rick Smith, Steve “El Topo” Mayeda, Daniel Rose, and others. Dream has managed to recruit some of the best instructors, mentors, speakers, and teachers in the world on topics such as exercise, body building, entrepreneurship, health, sex, spirituality, and of course, pickup. If you attend no other live event this year, make it a point to join us in Orlando next weekend. It’s an event you won’t want to miss.

Sign up here for a special discounted rate and as an added bonus, if you sign up now I’ll also throw in a FREE 30-minute consultation/1-on-1 session with you in Orlando. Just send me an email after you’ve signed up and I’ll get you scheduled in. Prices are going up again (over $100) in 3 days so don’t wait!

Oh and I almost forgot, I’ll be offering in-field training in Orlando as well on both Friday and Saturday nights. I have extremely limited availability and sign ups are first-come, first-serve, so don’t procrastinate on this.

Find out more information on infield training here.

Hope to see all of you guys there.

In a ‘pickup’ type interaction, most humor comes from combining general technique (e.g., sarcasm, exaggeration, etc.) with sound bites (“that’s what she said”). It’s not that different from stand up comedy, where a comic combines a routine stack of stand up techniques (e.g., setup-punch) with improvised sound bites (especially in response to hecklers in the audience).

Keep in mind that MANY of these sound bites are not original. I’ve stolen borrowed from naturals, stand up comedians, pickup gurus, and even students. When possible, I will make every attempt to credit the author though at times I don’t remember the source. This list is also obviously not comprehensive — it is simply a small sample of some of my favorite sound bites and humor based routines from the top of my head.

As with any type of routine, these lines are NOT magic. They will not work if you don’t deliver them correctly. In fact, I’d say about 80% of their effectiveness is delivery based.

Enjoy.

Flex-Teasing (Credit: JamesSF… I think)

Me: “You’re buff. That’s hot. Let me feel your guns. Flex for me.”

Girl: *Flexes*

Me: *feel her arm* “No, really, flex for me.”

Girl: *Flexes again*

Me: *still feeling her arm* “No, for real”

Girl: “Shut up!” *Punches you*

Fungus IOI (Credit: ex-gf)

“You know… you’re growing on me… like a fungus kinda…”

Talkin’ Shit (Credit: Stand Up Comic from La Jolla Comedy Store)

“Girl, you wanna step to this, you betta bring a ladder”

My Version of Good Girl/Bad Girl (Original Version Credit: Tyler Durden(i think?) Humor follow up sound bite courtesy of the always funny Robbie Kramer)

“ohhh… so you’re the good one and you’re the bad one. I knew it. It’s sooo obvious. I think I need a note from my mom before I talk to you.”

Classic Little Sisters Banter (Credit: No idea, been around forever)

“You guys are ADORABLE. You’re like my little sisters.”

Propeller Dork (Credit: No idea. Oldie but goodie)

“You are SUCH a dork. I’m going to buy you one of those hats with a propeller on top”

Elf Shoes (Credit: Can’t remember. Might be original)

“I fucking LOVE your shoes. But uh… how do you feel about the elf that you clearly stole them from?”

Fat Kid Cocky Funny (Credit: David DeAngelo (I think?))

Me: “Stop looking at me like that.”

Girl: “Like what?”

Me: “You’re looking at me like a fat kid looks at a cheeseburger. That’s not cool. I’m not a piece of meat. I have feelings too, you know.”

More Cocky Funny (Credit: Various — David D, Zan, et al.)

• “LADY, MY EYES ARE UP HERE”
• “Stop trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me”
• “I’m SO out of your league.”
• “Oh I’m way too high maintenance for you.”
• (when she offers you a sip of her drink) “no thanks, i’m not that fond of the roofie-colada” (Credit: Kamouflage)
• “Stop trying to start fights just so you can get make up sex.”

Teasing/Treating Her Like a Kid (Credit: Various. Some original.)

• Aww you’re so CUUUUTE when you’re angry! *pinch her cheeks like a grandma*
• “I’m rubber, you’re glue, everything you say bounces off me and sticks back on you.”
• *Pat her on the head like a dog* “You’re cute.” Optionally: “Good girl.” Followed up with: “Sit.”
• “Isn’t it past your bedtime?”

Imaginary Friends (DJ Fuji Original Routine)

Me: “Who are you here with?”

Her: “Oh um my friends. They’re in the bathroom”

Me: *Give her weird look*

Me: *Give her look like “Oh I understand”*

Me: “Ohhh… you don’t really HAVE any friends… that’s okay honey… we all have imaginary friends sometimes. (*pat her patronizingly*) I like your imaginary friends. Ashley is so sweet. But Brooke is a bitch. She totally stole Mary’s boyfriend and that’s just NOT cool at all.”

Yawning (Unknown)

Yawn loudly and then make your yawns progressively longer and louder until you get that “how rude!” look or a hit on the arm. Then say, “No, no please continue… I ALWAYS yawn when I’m interested”.

Tinkle (DJ Fuji)

“I love how girls have to let you know they’re not going poo. They’re always like ‘i have to tinkle.’ So if you ever just say you’re going to the restroom, I’ll know not to use it after you.”

Misc

• “You are so adorkable”
• (If she interrupts you) “I’m sorry for talking while you were interrupting”

Farted Opener (not tactically sound but OH so funny)

“Excuse me, do you ladies care if i hang out with you until its safe back over there where i farted?”

Good Kisser (Credit: Kamouflage)

*point to your cheek, insinuating you want a kiss*

She kisses your cheek.

“omg you’re SUCH a good kisser.”

Starfish

• Knock Knock
• Who’s there?
• Interrupting starfish
• Interrupt..(grab their face with your hand)

Various Soundbites Shamelessly Stolen from Philos

• (When she does something stupid or embarrassing) You know, you’re lucky you’re so adorable.
• I think I’m falling in like with you.
• I don’t just like you, I like-like you….that’s almost as much as two likes.
• [you trip in fall in front of a set] Still single, ladies.
• She goes to shake your hand: Let’s bring it in for the big thing. [hug]
• [she acts slightly offended to what you just said] Okay, you can’t get all…ewwww…and fucking LILITH FAIR on me like this.
• Call me if you need a hug.
• Don’t stand so. Don’t stand so. Don’t stand so close to me.
• If you were a man, I’d punch you right in the neck.
• Her: Have you ever been in love? Me: Other than with myself?
• Something smells great in here…Oh it’s me.
• When you open and a girl gives you negative body language (to her friends):
  “Can you tell her to be nicer to me. She looks like she’s trying to scare away little children with that scowl and it’s hurting my feelings.”
• You’re really adorable when you sleep. Up until you fart. Then it’s not so adorable.

But before we get too deep into it, let’s first back up and actually make sure we understand the idea. Self-amusement is something I believe I first heard about from the esteemed Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics, one of the most well-respected men in this industry and someone who had a huge impact on my own development, both as a practitioner and as a coach.

Although I’m sure the concept had been around forever, Tyler was the first to initially codify it for me.

The basic premise is this:

“Dancing monkey” syndrome occurs when people you’re talking to realize that the value or entertainment you’re providing (humor, being interesting, etc.) is coming from a place of validation or acceptance-seeking. In other words, you’re not doing things because you genuinely enjoy the experience or enjoy connecting with others — you’re doing these things to impress people; you’re doing things to make people like you. This means that even if you’re saying or doing the right things, if the mindset in which it’s coming from is flawed, you will still communicate low value (read: unattractive) behavior.

The solution to Dancing Monkey Syndrome is to “be Self-Amusing.” In other words, don’t do things because you want people to like you or you want their acceptance. Do things because you want to do them. Because it makes you laugh. Because you like doing it. Because it amuses you first.

Now of course, that doesn’t mean you go around like a sadist and put people down and make them feel bad to amuse yourself. (Although if that’s your first thought, you have bigger issues than just pickup.) But what it does mean is that your mindset must be in the correct place or nothing you say will “work.”

Those are all prime examples of someone who said the right things but didn’t have the right mindset. Mindsets are some of the most powerful tools we have in communication and social interactions. They can shape our beliefs, change the way we see and interpret the world, and alter the way people feel around us.

In the case of self-amusement, the mindsets should be things like:

“I enjoy interacting with people.”

“People enjoy my company.”

“I’m having fun amusing myself here.”

Your mindsets should NOT be anything like:

“I need them to accept me.”

“I’m unattractive but these lines will make them like me.”

“I need these people to validate me.”

Now that we understand Self-Amusement, let’s look at some examples of things I personally use that exemplify the concept. Note that while these things can demonstrate and teach you the correct mindset, you should still be focusing on the mindset that creates them more than the words and mechanics of the tactic.

Let’s begin:

• In mid-sentence I’ll interrupt myself, point at her shirt, and say, “what is that? I think you spilled something.” When she looks down, yup, you guessed it — she gets a finger flick to the nose. Ladies and Gents, 2nd grade is now in session… again.
• Try to convince her of things that are blatantly untrue. Telling her I’m half black. That my hair is really a wig. That I’m really from Kenya. And that I ran to the club in my bare feet. You get the idea. I do most of this with a semi-straight face, as if I’m really trying to convince her of my bullshit.
• Shake hands. Scratch your nose right after. Sniff. Smell your hand like you just noticed something. Comment to her, “your hands… they smell like onions.” She’ll smell her palms. *whack*. You hit the back of her palm and she hits herself in the face. Laugh. (Credit for this variation goes to one of my students though I can’t remember who. If you’re reading this, email me and remind me.)
• If she ever yawns open-mouthed, put your finger in her open mouth. Unless she’s very comfortable with you, it will cut her yawn short, resulting in a very uncomfortable “my-sneeze-just-died” feeling. Laugh.

These are obviously only the tip of the iceberg. Again, the idea is that you live in your own reality and you amuse yourself and aren’t trying to “get something” from them. You don’t reek of an agenda. You don’t need anything from them. You don’t say funny or interesting things to get them to like you. Everything is done because you want to do it.

Hope this helps clear some things up. Leave questions, criticisms, comments, death threats, etc., in the comments below.

Today’s tip is semi-obvious to a lot of people and yet I still see this happening every day:

Stop talking like a little kid lest you be treated like one.

This mainly applies to text-based communication (email/text messaging). I don’t care if your friends say “i kno” or “wat r you doing?” I’ve never heard of a single woman who finds that sexy. Even if the GIRL does it, you shouldn’t. If you want to use an ampersand (&) instead of the word “and”, then that’s fine. If you want to abbreviate long words (‘appt’ = ‘appointment’), or even use an “lol” sometimes, fine. But talking like a texting 13 year-old does nothing for you or your game. It actually hurts things. It makes people not take you seriously.

So to sum up, avoid all uses of abbreviations and formatting that are associated with teengers and kids.

A quick list of words and phrases to avoid (along with their meaning):

• “kno” (know)
• “wat” (what)
• becoz/coz (because)
• rite (write/right)
• Retarded abbreviations that accomplish nothing (l8ter, 2morrow, bout) Note: If you’re a short black guy who is known to say “whachu talkin’ bout, Willis?”, you are officially exempt from this rule)
• AnYthInG wRitTen LiKe ThIs

This gets progressively worse the older you are and/or the more formal the communication. (e.g. A 19 year old girl texting another 19 year old girl like this isn’t as damaging as a 50 year old writing like that on a resume.)

Safest option: Just speak like an adult.

There’s something I’ve seen recently that I want to bring up because it’s a super common sticking point that has recently regained popularity. It’s this whole “chode” thing. I remember how damaging it was back in the day to a lot of guys, only back then we called it something else. This ‘new’ version isn’t any different. I guess it really shows you how cyclical things are in pickup.

Back in 2004-2005 (when I had to walk to school in the freezing snow… uphill… both ways…), we came across a strange phenomenon in the community. Guys who were coming from so-called “AFC” backgrounds were becoming obsessed with proving that they were no longer human doormats. They had grown so tired of the feeling of powerlessness that they had made it their personal quest to become exactly the opposite. Now when a woman asked them to buy them a drink at the bar, these men were armed with an arsenal of witty comeback lines. When a women tried to shit test them or control frame, they were prepared with re-frames. And when an old lady fell down the stairs, they walked right by her, showing how “unreactive” they could be. You know, to show her how “alpha” they were.

Wait… What?

It’s embarrassing in hindsight. We were trying so hard to be “Anti-AFC” and were so adamant about our quest to “kill the AFC inside of us,” that we began to kill off any compassion, human decency, or perhaps most importantly, genuine love for women.

Guys who fell in love with a woman they had met refused to consider a relationship with them because, well, “that was AFC.”

Guys who cared a lot about women pretended to be assholes because, “they didn’t want to be AFC.”

And guys who were otherwise decent, compassionate people were suddenly on a strange jerk-kool-aid-binge to see who could be the biggest douchebag in the shortest amount of time.

We didn’t realize that the course we were taking was bringing us to the opposite side of the spectrum. And the opposite is just as unhealthy.

I remember a few times when I was hanging out with a good friend of mine and his sister needed help with something. The “normal” me would have helped her because that’s just my personality. I like helping people. That’s precisely why I have this job. But at the time, the new-and-improved “alpha” version of me said that helping her would be ‘supplicating’ and therefore I shouldn’t do it.

So I didn’t.

And later, when we were at the bar with friends and she got sick and decided to go home, no one (me included) walked her home because we were all trying to be ‘alpha’ and not show that we were decent human beings.

Fortunately, about 10 minutes after she left, I came to my senses and realized how stupid this was. I ran after her to make sure she got home ok.

I found her passed out on the ground outside.

That was my wakeup call.

It was someone slapping me in the face with my own (perhaps lack of) humanity and absurdity. I wanted to become this ‘alpha pickup artist’ so badly that I was abandoning the things I believed in—the things that made me “me.”

Don’t worry, I’m not going to go off on a rant about being yourself. I’m obviously not against growth, personal change, or even personality improvement/overhauls. But this same ‘anti-AFC’ sentiment that I went through years ago is now rearing its ugly head again under the guise of the ‘anti-chode’ movement.

Make no mistake about it: Today’s “chode” is nothing more than yesterday’s “AFC.”

Don’t get sucked into the anti-chode hype. I’m seeing the exact same thing on forums and message boards all over the internet now.

“She said ‘I love you’ but I would never say it back to her because I’m not some supplicating chode.”

Start by removing the word “Chode” from your vocabulary. It serves no purpose other than to make you feel superior by painting others with a condescending, lesser-value label. In essence, it makes you collectively feel better about yourself by looking down on others.

And that, obviously, is not the way to go about building healthy beliefs and inner game.

We should be in this whole thing to better ourselves, and part of that means not being judgmental. It’s easy for us to look at ‘supplicative’ behavior with disdain. But it wasn’t that long ago that most of us were in that boat. Judging and looking down on others might make us feel better temporarily, but it is nothing more than a mental version of the bully who puts everyone else down so that he can feel better about himself. And as Cam Teone is now famous for quoting (via Rocky), “You’re better than that.”

I was talking to Eric/Hypnotica today at Johnny Soporno’s Las Vegas AVN event and he brought up an interesting point. We were talking about where the community is heading and the recent influx of new instructors and Hypnotica pointed out that there’s no sense of respect among the new guys these days. He was referring to all the bad mouthing going on recently, from people trash-talking Ross to David D to Mystery and so on. It reminded me of what comedian Aries Spears said about the Soulja Boy – Ice T feud. The basic premise being that a lot of times the younger generations forget where they came from. They forget that the elder generations paved the way for them. Nothing going on today would be possible without the work of those who came before us. In the Marine Corps we almost worship the “Old Corps” Marines from yester-year. I’m not saying that we should go to that extreme, but Eric had a really good point – no matter how you feel about RJ or Mystery or any of the old timers, they deserve a lot of respect for making all of this possible. How easy we forget that in our current self-absorbed world.

On that note, I’m going to call my parents and see how they’re doing.

But c’mon. Let’s be realistic here. Most people don’t actually do ANYTHING long term with their resolutions. Did you make a resolution last year and fulfill it? Probably not.

January 1 is the biggest self-deception day of the year. Come Jan 1, 2010, most people should make a resolution to stop making resolutions. Instead, they should be TAKING ACTION.

See, the problem with resolutions are that they’re mostly theoretical. They’re broad ideas. They’re unspecific goals. They’re wishful thinking. But they AREN’T actions. Actions make things happen. That’s why the central theme in my boot camps and training is exactly that: Action.

I started off writing this article envisioning a 15-page thesis breaking down exactly what’s causing the problem, the mental blocks involved, and paragraph after paragraph of theory on the topic. Everything from persistence to self-discipline, to the mechanisms behind willpower and motivation. A quick google search on motivation gives you a glimpse into what I was writing about. But two minutes into the writing process, I stopped and deleted everything. It would have made a great college paper but a horrible post. I don’t really care what synapses fire when I’m motivated. I don’t care if Michael Phelps eats 10,000 calories for breakfast and if that changes his mental motivational structure. All I care about is what directly influences MY bottom line. All I care about is what I can do NOW to directly cause action. That’s what we’re going to talk about today.

So given this theme, screw resolutions. Let’s sit down and create an Action Plan.

A Call To Action

An Action Plan is like a resolution that actually materializes into something. It’s different because instead of describing broad ideas and wishful thinking, it creates a step-by-step plan of action to actually ACCOMPLISH said goals. We’re going to break down exactly how to create one. The key to this is that you can’t just read the following steps. Follow along with us each step of the way. I’m serious. I know what you’re thinking: “eh, I’ll just sit back and read the rest of this article and I’ll do the steps tomorrow when I’m not so tired.” Screw that. Most guys don’t get results because most guys don’t do what’s necessary. Most guys are reading this article and not actually doing it. So start doing it. Stop being a lazy fuck. Take out pen and paper now. Let’s begin.

Step 1: Beginning

Take a sheet of paper out or open a new document in whatever program you use.

Step 2: Goals

Create a heading that says “broad goals”. List things like “getting better at game”, “getting out of debt”, etc. List your top 5 in order of importance from highest to lowest.

Step 3: Specify

Now take the number one thing on your list. Since this list is prioritized, this number one thing should be the most important item. Now quantify it with details on exactly what you want. Give it a time constraint as well. Your goals cannot be vague and unspecific or you won’t achieve them. So if your broad goal was to “get better at game”, you’d make it more specific until it said something like: “Lose my virginity by Jan 2011.” Good.

Step 4: 12 Steps

You should now have both a specific goal and a due date. Let’s take “lose your virginity by 1/2011″ as an example. Now I want you to list 12 of the most crucial steps that will allow you to achieve that goal. This will obviously vary from person to person. These 12 steps should be the things that highlight your biggest weaknesses. Do not include things that have little direct relevance to your goal. In this example, your 12 steps might include things like:

• Getting a new wardrobe/Developing a fashion sense
• Conquering Approach Anxiety (AA)
• Learning how to flirt
• Cleaning up mistakes on your approach*
• Developing your lifestyle
• Actively working on your belief system/inner game
• etc.

*Now obviously you could be limited by a limited perspective (e.g., you may not really know a lot of your sticking points), but that’s where coaching comes in. If you’re coming from a dark place (e.g., you’re not a natural and this isn’t coming easy for you), not taking coaching is a bit like being obese your whole life and trying to get to the 2012 Mr. Olympia contest without help. Namely, it’s pretty much impossible. There’s a reason that every synthetic coach out there took training to get good. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM.

Step 5: Prioritize

Prioritize your 12 steps from most important to least.

Step 6: Actionable Tasks

Take each step and write out 5-10 actionable tasks to accomplish these steps. Keyword being Actionable. They have to be actionable tasks using action verbs. You’ll notice that each task starts with a verb for action. So for “getting a new wardrobe,” (assuming little to no existing fashion sense), we might break that down into the following tasks:

• Bookmark websites GQ Style, kinowear, lookbook.nu (on lookbook.nu, filter posts to men’s fashion only)
• Subscribe to GQ and Details Magazines. ($10-12 each for a year)
• Buy Esquire’s Handbook of Style ($11 bucks)
• Buy supplies and create a LookBook for every season (Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall). A lookbook is a binder full of custom style and fashion ideas to help you shop and create your own sense of style.
• Schedule a trip to go shopping for clothes at least once or twice a month. You don’t have to buy anything, but just browsing the latest fashions will help you develop an eye for fashion and what looks good.
• At least once a week before you go out, set aside 60-90 minutes experimenting with different combinations in front of the mirror. Take pics. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
• Go through your wardrobe and collect all the clothes that are abominations of style. You know what I’m talking about. Those free microsoft and WoW t-shirts. Throw them out.
• Take all the BFD clothing you have and get it tailored so it fits right.
• Stop making fashion mistakes that you know are mistakes (wearing white socks with jeans, wearing cross-trainers/tennis shoes with jeans, etc) — even if no one else notices. YOU notice, and it screws with your inner game.
• Take Training with a professional.
• Use your lookbook to go shopping and put the outfits together until you find a look that you like. Buy that outfit and start wearing it.

Note that these are all actual actionable TASKS and not just random ideas. Your 5-10 tasks have to be things that will directly contribute to the bottom line.

Step 7: Schedule

Now it’s time to take the tasks and schedule them into our lives. Put aside 5 or so hours per week to make this happen. No matter how busy your schedule is, 5 hours a week is do-able. That’s as simple as giving up an hour of sleep each night mon-fri. Find a way to include these 5 hours into your schedule.

Try to space them out to an hour a day or to two hours blocks, three times a week. Try to avoid scheduling a single 5 hour block on sunday night before you fall asleep.

Your action plan will serve as a roadmap to help guide you on what to do next. Use your scheduled blocks of time to start attacking your individual tasks. Ideally you’ll want to attack no more than 3 tasks simultaneously. This will keep you at optimal efficiency. When one task is done, simply move onto the next. I would advise AGAINST trying to attack tasks from multiple sub-steps at the same time. In other words, don’t try to work on inner game, outer game, lifestyle, etc. at the same time. Focus on one thing at a time until you conquer it.

Step 8: Recap & Maintenance

Now you have an actionable list of items to do for each task. So we have:

• 1 main goal
• 12 steps for your goal
• 5-10 tasks for each step

More importantly, we have scheduled time for each one of these steps and we have an action-based game plan on how we’re going to accomplish our goals.

Revisit this action plan at least once a quarter (every 3 months) to revise and make modifications. As you grow and change, your goals and sticking points will shift as well. Stay fluid by continually updating your goals to reflect your current situation. Also use this time to evaluate your progress and take note of both the things you’re doing right and the things that need improvement.

Step 9: Begin

The final step is to start the process. Inertia states that a body at rest will tend to stay at rest until a significant outside force acts on it. That force has to come from YOU. You have to begin this process and never let it stop. Continue to use this method to analyze your desires, setup a game plan, and achieve your goals.

These types of success processes and action-driven principles are the backbone of my Training Philosophy and my Long Term Training Programs. If you’re not getting the kinds of results you want in your dating life, perhaps it’s time to stop doing what you’ve always done and to start taking active steps to get what you want out life.

95% of guys in this community will never achieve their goals. Don’t be a statistic. Think big, Take action, and Live your dreams.

For those of you who are intent on really taking action, I’m temporarily discounting my long term training program if you sign up in January. Don’t miss this chance to turn your life around and massively improve your results with women! Sign up here.

Here’s to an amazing 2010. “The year,” as someone on my facebook stated, “that everything changes.”