Comments on: Tip of the Week: Eye Contact & Winking

By: Kevin Salas

Kevin Salas — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 18:16:17 +0000

wow… great information… this is super insightful… keep on bringing the goods man.

By: Gudtimes121

Gudtimes121 — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 22:04:09 +0000

Good points as always, Fuji.

By: DJ Fuji

DJ Fuji — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 09:06:11 +0000

I’m guessing this is a hypothetical situation and you haven’t really experienced this first hand. Because it’s SUPER rare, especially (and I’m guessing here) in Asian countries/cultures.

But to answer your question, you look, she looks, you make eye contact, and then you smile and wink. If she holds the eye contact, do one of three things:

1.) Walk over, smile, and say “you can’t look at me like that and not say hello.”

2.) Motion “come here” with your finger. If she says no (likely), laugh and wave your finger back and forth as if to say “bad girl”. Then go back to what you were doing. You’re doing a temporary takeaway. Remember that she wants you to approach so finish up what you were doing and then go over.

3.) Lip sync “i love you” to her with a huge grin on your face. See if she does it back. If she does, walk over (see step 1). If she doesn’t, make a sad face and do a thumbs down. She’ll laugh. Then go to step 2.

By: sha po lang

sha po lang — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 20:31:28 +0000

great article! but lets say you’re in a bar and lock eye contact with a girl, you smile.. but she just won’t look away. what if she’s giving you the big challenge? for how long it is “ok” to gaze?

By: Vann Vinuzzio

Vann Vinuzzio — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 17:25:45 +0000

Interesting! I started doing that exercise recently since I started game. It definitely took some time to get comfy with. But I didn’t think of winking, but I’ll so give that a shot … or ten!
Thanks DJ!

Game On!

By: Frozen Flame

Frozen Flame — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 11:53:37 +0000

Have you guys realized that smiling actually makes you happier (if you feel bad for example, and you force big smile). I’ve read this somewhere, maybe even from some Fuji’s article or forum post.

By: js

js — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 04:35:58 +0000

How odd. I just decided to work on my smiling just TODAY. Thanks for the tips.

By: Casanova's Envy

Casanova's Envy — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 23:51:30 +0000

It is truly amazing to myself doing something, and, reading about the very same technique from such a reputable source.

By: Bronn

Bronn — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 15:49:26 +0000

Great info, and the vids in the last post were great as well. I’m going to try the winking thing.