Comments on: The Chode Quandary

By: DJ Fuji

DJ Fuji — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:29:55 +0000

What post was that?

By: Seducing Woman

Seducing Woman — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 10:47:34 +0000

Great post I found you through @paulpark new post, glad I check out the link.

Robx

By: AlphaWolf

AlphaWolf — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:17:49 +0000

Another great post by DJ Fuji – I think once you love a girl it is ok to be yourself. As a matter of fact it is the strong man who is the most vulnerable and in touch with his true emotions.

Thanks for the link backs to PUA Lingo!
-AW

By: Carlos Velez

Carlos Velez — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:13:26 +0000

nice. found you through Kelly Diels’ new post.

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By: Milkman

Milkman — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 11:38:03 +0000

It’s part of calibration. Even a guy who has been in the community a year is still trying to figure things out. They go from perceived doormat to ultra asshole, thinking thats the way to be THE MAN.

WRONG. It just makes you a dick.

As nearly always, the answer lies somewhere between – experience will help calibrate.

-Milkman

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By: DJ Fuji

DJ Fuji — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 14:07:40 +0000

@Adonis: Very true, brother. I liken negging and DHVs to communism: Great ideas in theory, but 99% of the time, awful in practice.

Negging and DHVs being effective are contingent on a) strong social and conversational skills, b) not being weird, c) being very, very subtle, d) having a strong frame/reality, and e) being able to handle contingencies. Unfortunately, if we were that good at all those things, we probably wouldn’t be here in the first place.

That’s not to say that those concepts are necessarily BAD, they’re just misused way more often than anything else. Think of them as a the flying spin kick of MMA. I’m sure there’s a use for it in SOME circumstance, but that circumstance is SO remote that you’re better off preparing and practicing for the other 99.9% of the time.

By: Nick Quick (Adonis)

Nick Quick (Adonis) — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 20:32:03 +0000

Well put, DJ!

I would go even further and say the whole mentality of “negging” and “demonstrating value” is along the same lines as “not being AFC”.

Some guys still cling to the dogma that hot girls have to be ‘knocked off their pedastal’ and shown ‘how awesome you are’. Which is so rarely necessary and mostly just serves to make the guy look like a douchebag.

Guys who are legitimately cool will have no problem whatsoever genuinely complimenting a woman if he feels one is warranted. He also won’t feel the need to demonstrate value through intricate DHV tales…

As a wise old Zulu man told me while I was living in Africa: “The lion doesn’t have to roar!”

The lion already has the respect of the jungle, roaring isn’t necessary.

…so it ought to be with the budding PUA.

~Nick Quick (aka Adonis)

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