The Tao of DJ Fuji

Hey guys,

There’s been a crapload of things going on here lately that I need to post about but I wanted to throw this out there real quick before I forget.

I’m basically offering two big sales right now that are good until Valentine’s day. Like BIG sales. 50%-off-big. And in typical procrastinator fashion, I was really going to wait until tomorrow to post this, but considering one of them kind of takes place this Saturday, I figured I should probably get a move on.

So here’s the deal. Read the rest of this entry »

Some random humor courtesy of the internet. For being from a non-community source, it’s remarkably accurate. And oddly enough, uses some of our terminology.

There’s something I’ve seen recently that I want to bring up because it’s a super common sticking point that has recently regained popularity. It’s this whole “chode” thing. I remember how damaging it was back in the day to a lot of guys, only back then we called it something else. This ‘new’ version isn’t any different. I guess it really shows you how cyclical things are in pickup.

Back in 2004-2005 (when I had to walk to school in the freezing snow… uphill… both ways…), we came across a strange phenomenon in the community. Guys who were coming from so-called “AFC” backgrounds were becoming obsessed with proving that they were no longer human doormats. They had grown so tired of the feeling of powerlessness that they had made it their personal quest to become exactly the opposite. Now when a woman asked them to buy them a drink at the bar, these men were armed with an arsenal of witty comeback lines. When a women tried to shit test them or control frame, they were prepared with re-frames. And when an old lady fell down the stairs, they walked right by her, showing how “unreactive” they could be. You know, to show her how “alpha” they were.

Wait… What? Read the rest of this entry »

I was talking to Eric/Hypnotica today at Johnny Soporno’s Las Vegas AVN event and he brought up an interesting point. We were talking about where the community is heading and the recent influx of new instructors and Hypnotica pointed out that there’s no sense of respect among the new guys these days. He was referring to all the bad mouthing going on recently, from people trash-talking Ross to David D to Mystery and so on. It reminded me of what comedian Aries Spears said about the Soulja Boy – Ice T feud. The basic premise being that a lot of times the younger generations forget where they came from. They forget that the elder generations paved the way for them. Nothing going on today would be possible without the work of those who came before us. In the Marine Corps we almost worship the “Old Corps” Marines from yester-year. I’m not saying that we should go to that extreme, but Eric had a really good point – no matter how you feel about RJ or Mystery or any of the old timers, they deserve a lot of respect for making all of this possible. How easy we forget that in our current self-absorbed world.

On that note, I’m going to call my parents and see how they’re doing.

Do you have your New Year’s Resolution yet? Let me guess… it’s either something to do with being more healthy, working on yourself (dating or otherwise), or spending more time with family and friends.

But c’mon. Let’s be realistic here. Most people don’t actually do ANYTHING long term with their resolutions. Did you make a resolution last year and fulfill it? Probably not.

January 1 is the biggest self-deception day of the year. Come Jan 1, 2010, most people should make a resolution to stop making resolutions. Instead, they should be Read the rest of this entry »

Colombia - Click for full size

At the risk of getting all Tony Robbins on my dear readers, I want to share a quick story about the power of asking for what you want. This actually just happened today while flying back home.. I’m literally writing this blog post on the plane back to California.

The day starts like any other, except that I’m in Colombia, everything is mad cheap, and the coffee is, well, Colombian. I check out of the Read the rest of this entry »

One of my big pet peeves in this industry is the spread of misinformation and just plain bad advice by “gurus” who couldn’t teach their way out of a paper bag. Not only are these so-called teachers ruining their own credibility, but they are damaging the progress and belief systems of their students, whom most of the time don’t know any better.

I had one student recently with really bad inner game who told me that he worked with a coach who told him Read the rest of this entry »

I actually started writing this post months ago but just finished it up now. It’s on having mentors and why it’s important to your development. Hope you guys get something out of it.

Montreal

June 2009

So I just finished my San Diego “Core Fundamentals” boot camp on Sunday, going ‘til 1am (yeah, we went over schedule a bit) and I’m currently typing this in the back of a cab in Montreal, Quebec. Canada is so much like the U.S. that I’m consistently surprised when they ask for my passport. I forgot who said this, but I heard once that Canada is just America with free health insurance. And recycling. Lots and lots of recycling. It’s like San Francisco except people say “out” very strange. We say “out” like “ow-t.” They say it like “ooot.” Listen to Mystery and Read the rest of this entry »