Posted in General on 07/17/2010 03:52 am by DJ Fuji
It’s that time again, gents. It’s hard to believe it’s been a year already since the last 21 Convention event. For those of you fairly new to the blog, last year’s convention was my first major speaking engagement after having resigned from the old company and starting out on my own. Even though I had decent media exposure from my previous employer, I was, for the most part, walking into the convention as a “nobody.” In fact, I was technically a fill-in for someone else who couldn’t make it. And even when I gave the speech, I thought I was bombing it.
But to my surprise, the reviews, emails, and feedback started pouring in and apparently people liked it. That one little speech seemingly launched my career, giving way to MTV deals, interviews, documentary appearances, and tons of exposure. But even more important than that were Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in Life Coaching, Self Improvement on 07/05/2010 07:14 am by DJ Fuji
Recently stumbled across an amazing post by my friend Chase Amante. I don’t generally advocate guys spend a lot of time on pickup forums because of the horrible signal-to-noise ratio and inherent keyboard jockeyism taking place, but every once in a while I come across stuff that is absolutely golden.
When it comes to reading (pickup stuff or otherwise) I tend to be a very critical thinker. When I come across new ideas I’ll read with an open mind, absorb the content, and then filter it through what I call an exceptions list. It’s something we do in computer programming. Basically I take the claims made in the article and I compare them to my experiences to see if I can find exceptions. The more exceptions and contradictions I find, the less I trust the content and author. Conversely, the more things that I find resonates with my experiences, the more Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in Tip of the Week on 06/17/2010 05:00 am by DJ Fuji
You guys probably notitced the Tip of the Week section took a temporary hiatus while I was traveling but we’re back on track with this week’s tip on eye contact and winking.
A lot of guys think I get opened a lot when I’m out either teaching or sarging. But the truth of the matter is that while it APPEARS that several dozen women approach me each night, they’re actually only responding to my non-verbal opening earlier in the night. They’re not walking up cold, they’re usually walking up because I was Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in Sexuality on 06/16/2010 11:41 am by DJ Fuji
Posted in News, Pickup, Training on 06/03/2010 02:46 am by DJ Fuji
Big thanks to everyone who attended the first annual Global Pickup Conference last week. It was a packed house and the other coaches and I volunteered two free infield sessions on Friday and Monday. It was a crazy event. I spoke on Sunday on “Dominance” and why it’s important in pickup and in life. Look for it on the DVDs when they are released.
The event hosts also presented me with the “best fundamentals” award which was pretty cool, despite it looking like a Mystery- Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in General on 05/03/2010 03:14 am by DJ Fuji
For this week’s tip I decided to give away some of my favorite routines, sound bites, and humor techniques. “Sound bites” is a term that I stole from my old wing Philos (who was featured on the infield insider and who is still to this day one of my most skilled wings) who confessed one day that much of his amazingly effective humor came from the thousand of so soundbites that he had memorized over the years. I didn’t understand this at the time (Philos, if you’re reading this, this was in 2006 when we were at the kaleidoscope mall together), but I later started to acquire my own “sound bank” of witty quips, comebacks, and funny one-liners and it all made sense.
In a ‘pickup’ type interaction, most humor comes from combining general technique (e.g., sarcasm, Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in News on 04/30/2010 05:33 am by DJ Fuji
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I’ve been kind of behind on updating you guys with news and stuff so here are a few updates.
First and foremost, the long-anticipated 21 Convention Documentary Series titled “The Community Tapes” just launched earlier this week with yours truly starting things off. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in News, Pickup, Training on 04/30/2010 03:14 am by DJ Fuji
Quick reminder for those of you not on my email list that I’ll be speaking back-to-back at two giant New York City conferences next month. I’ll be speaking alongside some of the biggest names in the industry (Ross Jeffries, BradP, Love Systems, etc.) over three days each weekend and may offer discounted infield training while I’m in the city. If you live on the East Coast, you don’t want to miss this.
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Posted in Tip of the Week on 04/29/2010 01:00 am by DJ Fuji
I'm so tempted to troll this caption with pickup company names
Hey guys,
Another (relatively) quick tip of the week here. Last week Dan from WordOfDan commented on the dancing monkey syndrome:
I’m curious how you’d suggest guys using routines adopt this mindset. After all, if you’re learning a line someone else gave you, that THEY found funny and had success with, it seems like it would come off at best, dancing monkey. Your physical jokes seem to be able to bypass that a little bit, but what about other people’s stories, teases, etc.?
Really, really good question that I probably should have thought about in the original article. I’ll expand upon this more in a future segment of my Routines Series Articles, but the short answer is to follow the same Read the rest of this entry »
Posted in General on 04/20/2010 03:33 am by DJ Fuji
This week’s Tip of the Week is a special request from blog reader Frozen Flame who wants more information and actual examples of the “self-amusement” concept.
But before we get too deep into it, let’s first back up and actually make sure we understand the idea. Self-amusement is something I believe I first heard about from the esteemed Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics, one of the most well-respected men in this industry and someone who had a huge impact on my own development, both as a practitioner and as a coach.
Although I’m sure the concept had been around forever, Tyler was the first to initially codify it for me.
The basic premise is this: Read the rest of this entry »
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